Recently, I was privileged to work with a young girl who had tragically lost her mother to cancer. She did not speak about this very much in sessions but occasionally one or other of the horses would remind her of her mother. In one session we were looking at building obstacles, which consisted of poles and cones. The horses would not go close to the obstacles at all. The girl tried to change them by lowering the obstacle or moving position of them but the horses would not move near them.
The girl thought the horses were scared to go over the obstacles and this is why they stayed away. She decided to remove the obstacle completely and make the “obstacle” into a walkway. She made it narrower and then chose the same horse to take through. This horse would only walk through this with the another horse in the area. The girl did this a few times and each time the horse would go through only with the other one.
The girl eventually said, “they can go through the area only with their friend. Then they don’t feel so scared”.
The “obstacle” of the loss of her mother (as she had mentioned at an earlier session) was something she couldn’t go near, as the horses “described” to her. But she saw they were able to “go through” the difficult area with a friend, and so it wasn’t as fearful as being alone.
The simplicity and discernment of the horses’ actions are, as usual, much more profound than words.